So I’m afraid I have no other way to say this without saying it here.
Here’s an open letter to my mother.
Jilly isn’t a bad dog, she’s a pent-up, hyper dog. And screaming at her and beating her crate is not how we’re going to make her a better dog. It’s going to make her a skittish dog. I love how Dad and Rocco are idolizing Jax like he popped out all mellow and perfect. He destroyed things too, but there was a gigantic difference between puppy Jax and current-puppy Jill. You were home ALL DAY EVERY DAY with puppy Jax until he was like, 5. Jill spends all her day in a crate.
She’s an active, chewy puppy. Yet we have no outlet for her to be active, OR get rid of this excessive chewy feeling. And she responds pretty well to gentle commands instead of shoving her around and smacking her snout. She still jumps, but if I spend a few minutes praising her to ‘sit’ when she’s jumping up for love, she gets it. So how about we buy her toys to chew, like a goddamed teething toddler? No, no chewing on blankets or pillows, YES, chew on all these toys. It’s like telling a two years old to sit still all day, the problem isn’t with the kid, it’s with whoever is demanding a ball of fuzzy energy to not move!
But it’s gotta be a ‘everyone helps’ deal too. We all have to throw a rope toy around the house after dinner, we all have to give her a ball and calmly tell her to ‘sit down’ when she’s jumping, but every time I say something I get dismissed, AS I USUALLY DO EVERY TIME I OPEN MY MOUTH.
I’m no dog trainer, but I can do some research, and scaring the dog half to death is not how we’re going to make her be a good dog, but, since I’m not some kind of world class construction worker who knows everything about everything that isn’t computers, both dad AND Rocco (and you…) won’t listen because apparently, doing research and testing things that aren’t ‘scream loud enough to scare every animal in a ten block radius while losing my temper’ is clearly something only computer geeks can do.
Love, the hermit.